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amber mccoy

National Guard

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Share your military spouse story:
It was a hot day in the middle of the summer of 2008 in Iraq. I was approached by a young man who introduced himself as Dustin McCoy, young Specialist at the time. Initially, I found this strange and did not want to be bothered, after all we were in a war zone. This young man was very persistent popping up in all the same places I would go. At the end of October 2008 we were making our way back home to the United States and we struck up conversation and I realized we had a lot more in common than expected. He made me smile and laugh and so I decided to give it a chance. Once we returned to the States we had our first date and we have been inseparable since. A few months later, in June 2010, we were wed and blessed with our first son, Weston. Soon after our vows were said he was on his way to another deployment in Feb 2011. While he was busy with a deployment I settled myself into being a new mother, newlywed wife, soldier and a college student. He returned home April 2012 and encouraged me to continue my school work seeing how important it became to me. Due to his support I completed school with 2 degrees. In 2016 we were blessed with our second son, Ryker and once again Dustin was headed for his third deployment across the sea. I found comfort in a new found hobby, weight lifting, and began to compete in transformation competitions. Though he is home now he is my biggest support while keeping me accountable. Through our marriage I have supported my husband through 3 active duty deployments, 13 years of drills and multiple State Active Duty missions while he has given his life in supporting me in all my dreams and aspirations. No, not all days are rainbows but we have grown together with our Guard family in tow. He has been a key staple in his unit of 13 years and a staple in our marriage.

Describe your involvement in the military community:
I joined the Oklahoma Army National Guard in 2008 and I decided to volunteer for my first deployment as a new private. I currently host family dinner nights for soldiers so we may share strength and support for one another. We started off hosting for his unit then it spread to the battalion and now anyone that is Guard or prior Guard attends. At any given time we host up to 12 children and multiple adults. It is important to me to instill connection, not only within our ranks, but for our children to be connected to other Guard children. We have organized community outreach that service members voluntarily participate in, such as feeding the homeless. I also am a contractor for the Oklahoma Army National Guard serving as the Alcohol and Drug Control Officer and overseeing the Suicide Prevention Program. I am consistently involved with our service members by helping those with addictions and networking with community resources to help build more resilient soldiers and families.

Share an example of your leadership experience within the military community:
I show leadership by taking the issues our soldiers face and presenting them to alliances and coalitions. I have helped many of our families apply for needed assistance and benefits that are needed. Within my role of being the Alcohol and Drug Control Officer I have implemented free substance abuse assessments. As of now, we are the first state to offer this to our Guard members. I was finding that soldiers were unable to afford the necessary assessments to move forward. I am also on my way to implementing a DUI program for free for our service members. I have also worked closely with family member to help them with resources for mental health and addiction. Leadership is being the voice for the soldier who is on hard times or embarrassed of their circumstances.

Describe how you support your community:
I support the community by making positive partnerships with community resources to instill a security blanket of support. Not only have we fed the homeless but we have banded together to help support other families that are not Guard affiliated that are in times of need. This past Christmas a family in need was brought to my attention. With one Facebook post the family in need had a kitchen stocked with groceries and an assortment of gifts for the children. We are Guard and we are everyday citizens that uphold the Oklahoma standard.

What platform do you advocate for? Why?
I advocate for the soldiers voices to be heard. I advocate for the soldier and their family that does not feel supported. This is detrimental because the feeling of being a part of an organization without the support can cause more harm than greatness. I also have a strong belief in advocating for proper resources that work and do not cause more confusion. It is important that our soldiers are getting the help and resources requested properly and efficiently. I advocate for our community resources to become culturally aware. We are Guard one weekend a month two weeks a year. I advocate for belonging.

How have you spread the message of your platform?
I spread my message by creating Facebook events and the Family Readiness Group pages and word of mouth. I have also been apart of the Oklahoma National Guard's podcast sessions to talk about Suicide Prevention. I conduct Substance Abuse and Suicide Prevention briefings regularly to our service members where I also spread the word of available resources.

What do you hope to accomplish with the AFI Military Spouse of the Year® title?
I hope to accomplish a more inclusive and family oriented Guard by creating a supportive environment by shedding light on available resources to strengthen our families and service members. My wish is that my children are learning the values that I have learned from the Guard, not only as a spouse, but as a soldier. My hope is that all of our Guard children will always have a place to call home and are learning these same values. The values of trust, connection, support and love. I look forward to making more positive strides by building trust and relationships to support our organization and its members.


Amber is always going the extra mile for her family, other soldiers and their families. There have been many times when she has invited soldiers into her home to eat with her family but I think the thing that impresses me the most is her passion for helping Service Members and their families. Whenever she hears of someone in need she is searching and reaching out to all available resources that could help. She works very hard to build up our Service Members and goes home to take care of her family. Her husband is in the OK Army National Guard, but she has also served with the Guard. She has a great understanding of both what it’s like to be the Service Member and what support family members need when their loved one is deployed.
- by kellen brooks

Currently, Amber works as a contractor under my department within the Oklahoma National Guard. She was a former Guardmember and now serves as the Alcohol Drug Control Officer (ADCO). She is very involved in working with the community and with those throughout our ranks. She ensures we provide preventive measures to reduce suicides and provide assistance to our Servicemembers AND their families who have issues with substance abuse. She works tirelessly in connecting with community partners and various other agencies like the VA, mental health, etc. She has proposed two new operating procedures we use in our state: 1) a means for any of our Servicemembers AND their family to get direct help from our mental health and/or other staff support. 2) a means to provide assessments for free to the Servicemember seeking help with substance abuse issues. She is a true asset as an employee and spouse. She continues to ensure we serve the whole family! My work email is
- by lindy i white

Amber and I have worked together for over a year. I am also a fellow military spouse. In addition, I am a Behavioral Health provider with the military, both National Guard and Contractor. Amber has gone above and beyond to reach out and connect with military service members and their families to provide prevention and intervention for suicide and for addiction issues. Ambers actions have led to at least a 30% success rate (of my case load from Dec 2018-Dec 2019) in recovering soldiers from destruction and assisting military families move forward constructively.
- by patricia mathes-kerr

I am Nominating Amber McCoy because of her dedication to the 160th FA Battalion. Her husband has served in Bravo battery for 14 years and through countless deployments she has been dependable for spouses and soliders to have support and comfort. Her heart extends far beyond deployments, she has opened her home and dinner table to countless family members throughout the years to create a family oriented battery. She has been quick to find resources and help to any solider or family member. She is dependable, caring and treats soldiers has family members not just another solider.
- by lynda steele

Amber McCoy is one of the most dedicated hard working persons that I know. She is the suicide prevention program manager and alcohol control officer for the Oklahoma Army National Guard. She is always hosting family dinner nights for her husbands unit to build family relationships and camaraderie. She has brought numerous of soldiers from units to prepare and serve meals for the homeless. Amber McCoy is constantly looking and pursuing ways to bring people together to make a better and stronger community. Amber McCoy has also received the Readiness Coin from the battalion commander for her hard work and success. Amber McCoy is a true leader and someone that you can count on and come to for solutions.
- by jennifer misener

Amber served her time in the military and after serving, she continued to serve by providing multiple levels of support and being a valuable resource such as suicide prevention program manager and drug and alcohol control officer. She has also assisted many FRG coordinators in any role needed to support the units. She has bent over backwards to assist the commanders at the unit and brigade level. She does it all without complaint because she is always looking out for the welfare of all soldiers. She is a role model that exemplifies the true meaning of a leader
- by omar pina martinez

Amber has been working for the Oklahoma Army National Guard for the past 3 years. She has been the Suicide Prevention Program Manager and is now the Alcohol Drug Control Officer. She has a great work ethic and goes above and beyond to help soldiers in their time of need. As a military spouse and mother of two young boys, Amber balances her professional and personal life very well. She hosts dinners for members of her husband’s unit and goes the extra mile to make them feel welcome. When she sees a family in need she will find the resources they need. She has a heart of gold and a great sense of humor. She is one of the most reliable people I have met in a very long time. Amber is very deserving to be selected as the Military Spouse of the Year.
- by melissa blankenship

Over 10 years with her husband going on multiple deployments, going to school and obtaining multiple degrees along with raising two precious children, holding a full time job after graduating and being in the military herself during part of the time, she’s been a friend, battle buddy, and a woman to admire and look up to.
- by robin donaghue